Sebenarnya perasaan nak menaip… nak bercerita dan meluahkan tu da memang membuak2 sejak semalam lagi…
Last night I had planned to go for a walk at around 10pm,
and to just record myself talking while walking (gotta get the daily steps too)
but unfortunately the plan remain as it was, just a plan…
My 8 yo daughter had asked me to teman her tidur in her room
and I just couldn’t say no to her… kalau ikutkan aku ni memang sejenis manusia
yg tak suka nak melayan orang punya requests… tapi dengan anak sendiri aka my
daughter yg aku dah dubbed as my forever girlfriend, aku kalah…
so lepak la aku di bilik dia sambil pok pok dia sampai
tidur, and by then it was already 11pm… so bye2 la my night walk…
Terlalu banyak benda yang bermain di fikiran… so untuk aku
do it justice, I think its better for me to list them out and vent on them one
at a time… so here goes…
1.
Badan aku da makin bulat
Sedih eh bila tengok diri sendiri dalam
cermin, atau tengok diri sendiri dalam gambar lately… dah semakin tembun dah
aku sekarang ni… last month pergi doctor checkup, berat aku 88kg… berat tu mcm
takda la naik sangat, tapi yg naik sangat ni kat bahagian perut ni… da macam
belon eh…
Anak aku yg kecik 4 tahun tu siap kata
daddy ada baby dalam perut… aiyooo… kecik besar kecik besar je budak je ni aku
tengok…
Owh speaking of baby, nak selit sikit pasal
my wife’s miscarriage haritu… it happened in late January or early February mcm
tu… masa tu kita mmg da plan nak pergi Pangkor with my parents and adik beradik
but terpaksa la we missed the trip…
So my wife went to KK checkup to start/open
the pink book for the pregnancy monthly checkup… then masa kat KK tu doctor
scan and they couldn’t find the baby’s heartbeat… lepas tu we went to hospital
Serdang, and mmg confirm la takda heartbeat… the doctor kata the pregnancy will
fall by itself dalam masa seminggu mcm tu… lo and behold, 2 days after the
visit to the hospital, baby tu turun dan mmg banyak blood masa tu…
Aku sedih tapi aku tahu my wife was even
more sedih… 2 weeks before that, masa tu pregnancy tu was at 10 or 11 weeks, we
went to a clinic to scan the baby and it was healthy… and I even recorded a
video of that… nampak la baby tu gerak2, siap pusing2 lagi masa scan tu… my 3
kids were all very excited to meet their younger adik tapi tak sangka la pulak
benda nak jadi mcm tu kan.. verily semua yang berlaku ini Adalah takdir dan
ketentuan Allah…
Mungkin ada lah hikmah atas kejadian ni kan…
So its okay, I believe kita dah move on dah
from this loss…
Eh Panjang pulak aku terdigress tercerita
pasal my wifes punya MC pulak… tadi nak citer pasal perot yg da makin bulat ni
je…
Actually, takda apa2 sangat pun nak citer
pasal perot buncit ni… makin stress aku dibuatnya… nak kurangkan makan tak
mampu… tak mampu ke tak mahu?? Sendiri la jawab kan… nak makan ubat kurus, aku tak
yakin dan takut nnt rosak buah pinggang pulak… so terima je la seadanya keadaan
perot yg da makin besar ni… tapi selagi bloodwork masih okay reading, ok je la
perot besar pun kan… yang penting happy & healthy…
2.
Cuaca sangat panas yer sekarang
Allahu, sekarang aku rasa cuaca sangat
panas yer.. especially kat rumah aku tu… dah la sangat jarang hujan nyer…
pokok2 yg aku tanam kat depan rumah tu pun mcm kering merekah dah tanah nyer…
Pastu air yg dalam tangka atas rumah tu
panas nyer dah macam air kena jerang eh… kalau mandi time tengah hari masa
matahari tengah tegak tu rasanya mcm mandi guna air yg baru lepas menggelegak
tu… adeh…. Nak amek wudhu nak solat pun takut…
Kenapa aku includekan cerita pasal cuaca
panas dalam list benda yang aku nak sembang ni eh?? So very random kan…
3.
Work and uncertainties
Ni actually the main topic yg aku nak
sembangkan sebenarnya… tapi macam dah banyak sangat benda yang bermain di
fikiran aku semalam, and the day before… dia rasa mcm dah basi…
nak citer kat sini pun rasa mcm takda point…
tapi takpe lah, aku citer la sikit kan…
Company aku BV Malaysia, specifically my
department EC ni dah mengalami losses, since last year dah loss… ni dah May dan
company da loss close to half a million rasanya…
So company nak start implement retrenchment,
or MSS, laying off employees la senang citer…
I know very well that there is a high
chance of me being chopped tapi aku malas la nak meroyan pasal tu sebab mcm
takda point pun… aku rasa baik aku focus my energy to move on and cari keje
lain je…
Cuma aku rasa terkilan la sebab aku suka je
keje sini… rasa sekarang after 4 years of being here, aku da selesa, dan rasa
mcm da smooth je buat keje… takda perlu sangat supervision, or guidance from
anybody… dan macam well-oiled machine la ibaratkan..
So the thought of having it all taken away
from me is very frustrating, tapi tu la kehidupan kan… semua ni sandiwara dunia
bak kata P Ramlee..
Bukan la aku dah menerima Nasib aku, but I know
that its nobody’s fault… dan aku rasa mcm aku da makin expert dalam seni berdamai
dengan takdir… losing a job is just that, losing a job… bukannya aku mati,
bukannya aku jadi cacat kekal ke… it doesn’t need to be something that shapes
the rest of my life… so better move on je lah kan…
Be grateful for the 4 years and the
experience gained while I was with the company… that’s a more healthy and
better perspective to see it kan… daripada nak meroyan yg takda faedah dan
takda point….
4.
Seni Berdamai dengan Takdir
Ni macam continuation dari topic no3 tadi
kan… sebenarnya ada lagu kan nyanyian naim Daniel & ustaz adnin… its
actually one of my favorite songs…
Dan aku ada terfikir nak jadikan ni sebagai
my sharing topic during my department weekly meeting… kalau berkesempatan, aku
share la dengan team members aku masa weekly meeting tu nanti… mana la tahu,
mungkin takda rezeki, belum sempat sampai turn aku nak sharing, aku dah terima
surat notis berhenti 24 jam ke…
The way I see it is, we can question so
many things that happen in our life… why am I not handsome? Why am I not rich? Why
aren’t my parent rich? Why am I not tall, why am I not fair-skinned… there are
too many things yg kita boleh persoalkan tapi to what end?? Kita nak persoalkan
takdir dan ketentuan Allah? Adakah itu akan membantu kau dalam hidup??
I guess this is part of maturing, being an
adult, that is to learn to accept things how they are and to see things from a
different point of view… and to have faith yg semua yang kau ada, semua yg
terjadi pada diri kau tu Adalah yang terbaik untuk diri kau yang telah
ditentukan oleh Allah…
We plan, Allah plans, and He is the best of
planner… I think itu ayat dalam Al Quran tapi aku tak sure surah mana…
Tapi bukan la maknanya kita kena duduk
terkangkang je takda buat apa2 dalam hidup ni… kita kena la usaha jugak kan
untuk dapatkan apa yg kita nak tu… tapi kena tahu yg perancangan kita mungkin
bukan yg terbaik untuk kita dan terima keadaan dengan hati yg redho…
omaigod, rasa seperti seketul ustazah
baiyah dengan tudung labuh yer bila aku cakap camni… haiyooo…
Satu lagi is, kita takleh nak terlalu focus
on things that we don’t have, or the Shitty things that happened…. Sesungguhnya
dalam banyak2 tahi tu, ada juga bunga nya, ada juga manisnya…
mungkin ni pun satu lagi sign of adulting,
that is to sift through things in your life and choose to focus on things that
make you happy or a better person… omg, I am OLD!!
ok next!!!
5.
The need for human connection and communication
Ni pun macam satu lagi topic yg aku rasa
mcm menarik untuk dijadikan perkongsian masa department meeting… pasal the need
of human connection and communication with other people.. especially if you’re
married kan…
Ye aku tahu bunyi macam cliché namati cakap
pasal communication bila da kahwin ni.. tapi da mmg benda betul pun kan…
So nak short story sikit… itu hari my
friend azhan ada txt me and he told me that hes struggling mentally… masa tu
aku tengah busy buat something la… aku reply txt dia “Naper?” jer…
Aku rasa agak bersalah jugak la… tapi aku mcm
tak nak be seen as someone kepochi nak tanya lebih2 apa masalah dia kan…
Then the next day or so, I asked him back “ko
ada problem kerja ke something else?” to which he didn’t respond… so aku takda
la nak pursue the conversation with him… mungkin dia rasa lebih selesa untuk
open up dan bercerita face to face… nak txt2 ni zaman sekolah dulu boleh la kan…
Txting dgn group active5 kau tu kalau ko
guna hotlink masa tu.. haiyoo dah kertu…
Adik2 gen Z konfem taktau apa tu active5….
Speaking of human connection ni, aku rasa
mcm pernah tengok satu video or an ig reel pasal kita as humans mmg this is
part of our basic needs… dia membantu sangat2 especially for those yg tengah
struggle with depression or anxiety… sejenis mental illness ni… the 1st step is to be cognizant of
your situation or your problem, accept that you have an issue, depression ke
apa2 mental health issue…. Then to seek help… seek help is by having people
whom you trust and can be open with… people who would be there for you… ini pun
sejenis rezeki yg kita often overlook kan… so if you have these people in your
life, count yourself blessed dan rich… bukan monetary rich, but life rich.. ah
gittew…
Teringat pulak yg citer anne Hathaway dia
open up dgn this black lady pasal dia ada bipolar tu… haa mcm tu la…
6.
Survival mode seorang makhluk Bernama Izzue
I think its quite normal for me to think of
ways to keep myself afloat kan should the really bad things were to happen… ada
lah beberapa things come to mind..
Kalau aku da tak keje nnt, then I would
have to depent on my wife la to temporarily become the bread winner for our
family, take care of the bills and whatnot…
And I just found out pasal SOCSO punya
program EIS yg kalau kita kita kena retrenched ni, kita boleh apply dan SOCSO
akan bayar kita percentage of our gaji selama 6 bulan… so yeah, kalau perlu mmg
aku akan explore ni nanti..
Also aku rasa it’s a good thing, maybe
something yg necessary pun… for us to sell our first house in Bukit Jalil tu…
tapi that can only happen next year la sebab sekarang masih ada tenant… dan
tenancy contract is until End of December this year…
Sebelum ni rasa macam sayang la nak jual
rumah tu… tapi mungkin I need to change my mindset sebab benda ni bukan saja2
nak bukan… it’s a necessity kan to survive… ke mindset sayang nak jual rumah ni
sejenis masalah orang2 hoarder?? Eh ye ke?? Terlalu attached dengan duniawi…
lah tiberr…
Kalau dapat terjual rumah tu, aku dah check
harga dalam RM350k, so lepas tolak balance loan and lawyers fee and whatnot,
mungkin aku akan dapan dalam tangan around 120k-130k…
Ok la tu kan sementara nak dapat keje baru…
Owh mungkin aku boleh cuba buat online
business yg jual barang kat ebay tu… yg professor UTHM tu… aku mcm ada Nampak iklan
dia… lupa pulak nama program tu… aku rasa kalau aku bersungguh2 buat, boleh
dapat income yg lumayan jugak… pokoknya kena buat betul2 dan bersungguh2 la kan…
insyallah rezeki Allah ada di mana, yang penting usaha… mungkin apa yg terjadi
bukan something yg destroys you but as a stepping stone for you to reach your
full potential, become someone better, to achieve something that you deserve…
lahhh ayat positive lagi… eh mencik la tundung ostajah aku da senget ni….
7.
Chatgpt and copilot
Random je kan nak citer pasal Large Language
Model pulak kan…
Aku da penat menaip ni… ok long story short
la… haritu ada la aku chat dengan 2 ekor ni pasal benda2 yg berlaku dalam hidup…
pasal the thought of selling the house…
pasal my worry/concerns of my istana pasir being washed away by ocean waves
when I go play pickleball dengan the people from my Taman perumahan… and also
the worries of losing this job…
Biasala LLM ni memang sejenis yg akan
selalu positive je, dan mesti nak suggest steps itu steps ini… tapi dalam
prompt tu aku dah awal2 mention “I don’t need your lectures, I don’t need your
suggestions, I don’t need any steps to do anything… I just wanna share something…
and if you must say somethings, think of yourself as my shrink doctor who would
tell me things are gonna be okay… I just want someone, or in this case
something to listen to my problems”
Lo and behold, with this prompt, as the
pre-requisite memang LLM 2 ekor ni sangat bagus yer…
So far aku Cuma banyak guna 2 ekor ni je la…
Chatgpt aku guna on my phone, copilot ni aku guna while I am work sebab kat
office aku takleh guna chatgpt…
Owh speaking of work, memang useful gila la
aku memang selalu akan tanya copilot pasal kerja aku… macam aku suruh dia buat
kerja aku jugak la… tapi of course aku akan filter dan evaluate dia punya
suggestions tu before I put it out… so far mmg aku suka dan bersyukur dengan 2
ekor ni walaupun 2 ekor ni Adalah ciptaan orang Yahudi… lahhh tiber!!
Ok lah sampai disini Sahaja, jari aku da
penat…… till next time…. Semoga semua akan baik2 sahaja…