Friday, 19 October 2012

seksaited then dissapointed... lifes a rollercoster

salam and hellow everyone..

damn im feeling so bored
now in the office altho its a freakin saturday.
haiyo.. i really need to find a job where i dont have to work on saturdays.
but nevermind, maybe some day i will..

so bored now.. dont have much to do.. waiting for suppliers to come back with their letter of support for the celcom tender

ok let me just get to the point here..
theres actually one reason why i want to blog now.. altho it might sound stupid, but yeah its happening..

i am in that position again.. position, situation, circumstance.. whatever u want to call it..
the last time i was in this situation was back in 2007..
i was head over heels.. i couldnt stop thinking about it.. and i was the one chasing..

and yes of coz it took quite some time for me to recover from the sucky situation i was in.. then i became this hard person, heartless? even to a point where i said id never be able to love of fall in love again..

now im feeling like its starting to happen again.. i will get to that but not just yet..

that time when i was recovering from the heartache and pain of being rejected, unwanted.. it was difficult and i didnt like it one bit..

but lifes a roller coaster.. the table was turned where i became the chased one, not the chasing one..
there were a few people who wanted to be with me.. so i felt good about myself.. and i started to treat people badly..
and started to become selfish.. saying things like "kalau ko xnak aku, aku kesah ke? belambak lagi menunggu"
oh yeah i said that!!

but now the wheel is starting to turn again..
i am starting to fall for some one now.. and.. i have mixed feelings..

i was really excited.. especially when it wasnt me who initiated the whole thing.. so you can imagine how excited it was for me..

but now i realize that its not always sunshine kan.. things can get ugly very fast..
hmm.. maybe its not ugly yet.. its just me whos thinking too much and making too many assumptions that arent necessarily true..

i think i will just take it as it is.. no heart feeling, nor overly attached emotions just yet..

i will not be the first one to say it!!!

ok over sangat statement tersebut!!

okthanksbye~~

Friday, 5 October 2012

Happiness

Happiness–in your business life and your personal life–is often a matter of subtraction, not addition.
Consider, for example, what happens when you stop doing the following 10 things:
1. Blaming.
People make mistakes. Employees don’t meet your expectations. Vendors don’t deliver on time.
So you blame them for your problems.
But you’re also to blame. Maybe you didn’t provide enough training. Maybe you didn’t build in enough of a buffer. Maybe you asked too much, too soon.
Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others isn’t masochistic, it’s empowering–because then you focus on doing things better or smarter next time.
And when you get better or smarter, you also get happier.
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 a good guide for us to try to do, that is not to blame others when shit happens. but it is not as easy as merely saying it though.. easier said than done.. if we are to take the responsibility for things we didnt do, its like we are letting the ones who made the mistake get away with their faults.. we should atleast make them realize of the fault they have done and the impact it caused so that they realize it and do better next time.

well, maybe that is not blaming, but in order to make people better, they have to realize of whatever wrong theyve done (provided it was very clear, and proven they were faulty to begin with)

but when the issue is not so clear, and it was partially everybody's fault, the best thing to do is to make clear how things should have been done, then move on from there and rectify the mistake, making note so that it wont repeat itself.

2. Impressing.
No one likes you for your clothes, your car, your possessions, your title, or your accomplishments. Those are all “things.” People may like your things–but that doesn’t mean they like you.
Sure, superficially they might seem to, but superficial is also insubstantial, and a relationship that is not based on substance is not a real relationship.
Genuine relationships make you happier, and you’ll only form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself.

this one i do not entirely agree. what the author says about being of some substance by being yourself, and attracting people to having relationship with us which i think is probably not so applicable to people nowadays since we are not living in an ideal world where everyone and everything is without fault/error.

people in this real world care for the wrong things. ok i should say most people, not all. admittedly that includes myself. i do get attracted to get to know people who look good, who have nice things, who care for their appearance. in this case, those who have substance but do not look as good would be ignored and taken for granted. Pity.

maybe i'm a bit of a pessimist, but i like to think of myself as being realistic. impressing is important to some extent, in some circumstances, as that is how people tend to get attracted to you. attracting people to you is important!!!

i am a strong believer in good a "first impression". people who we just met do not know us. the only thing they can see is how we bring ourselves when around other people. so if we dont bother to do anything impressive, be it wear beautiful clothes or use branded things (only do this if you can afford, if you cant, dont!!),
then they wouldnt even care for your existence.

my take on this is, impressing is not entirely bad, but also at times can be important. avoiding it to make yourself happier is not entirely correct i would say.
it is correct, meaning it will make you less happy if you try to impress others who don't matter when you cannot afford it. so you be the judge whether or not you should.


3. Clinging.
When you’re afraid or insecure, you hold on tightly to what you know, even if what you know isn’t particularly good for you.
An absence of fear or insecurity isn’t happiness: It’s just an absence of fear or insecurity.
Holding on to what you think you need won’t make you happier; letting go so you can reach for and try to earn what you want will.
Even if you don’t succeed in earning what you want, the act of trying alone will make you feel better about yourself.

True!!!

Fear of failing is good, it proves that we have had all the good things we need as we now fear of losing them.

Letting go so we can reach for what we want is also good but this can also be dangerous.
make sure you make all the preparation you need and to lower your expectation just so it would not hurt so much when you fail. most people fail the first time. just dont let your first failure be the reason you dont try again.

4. Interrupting.
Interrupting isn’t just rude. When you interrupt someone, what you’re really saying is, “I’m not listening to you so I can understand what you’re saying; I’m listening to you so I can decide what I want to say.”
Want people to like you? Listen to what they say. Focus on what they say. Ask questions to make sure you understand what they say.
They’ll love you for it–and you’ll love how that makes you feel.
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True!!

5. Whining.
Your words have power, especially over you. Whining about your problems makes you feel worse, not better.
If something is wrong, don’t waste time complaining. Put that effort into making the situation better. Unless you want to whine about it forever, eventually you’ll have to do that. So why waste time? Fix it now.
Don’t talk about what’s wrong. Talk about how you’ll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.
And do the same with your friends or colleagues. Don’t just be the shoulder they cry on.
Friends don’t let friends whine–friends help friends make their lives better.

Whining is a big no no, but it doesn't mean that we aren't supposed to talk about the problem with others.
Asking for help is also good, just do not overdo it.
put it out once or twice to your friends or family. share with them and hopefully they get to help. only ask help from those who have the capacity to help.
but try not to burden them with you shit

6. Controlling.
Yeah, you’re the boss. Yeah, you’re the titan of industry. Yeah, you’re the small tail that wags a huge dog.
Still, the only thing you really control is you. If you find yourself trying hard to control other people, you’ve decided that you, your goals, your dreams, or even just your opinions are more important than theirs.
Plus, control is short term at best, because it often requires force, or fear, or authority, or some form of pressure–none of those let you feel good about yourself.
Find people who want to go where you’re going. They’ll work harder, have more fun, and create better business and personal relationships.
And all of you will be happier.

"Find people who want to go where you're going..."
Damn, if only its as easy as picking up Corntos from a 7 11. Control is not entirely bad. some people need to be controlled. some people like to be controlled. Not everyone knows what needs to be done.

if you're the boss, controlling your subordinates is crucial. also important is to let them express their thoughts and opinions. and make sure you think of their opinions/suggestions thoroughly. discuss them with a 3rd party if you must. be fair to them, fair to yourself.

7. Criticizing.
Yeah, you’re more educated. Yeah, you’re more experienced. Yeah, you’ve been around more blocks and climbed more mountains and slayed more dragons.
That doesn’t make you smarter, or better, or more insightful.
That just makes you you: unique, matchless, one of a kind, but in the end, just you.
Just like everyone else–including your employees.
Everyone is different: not better, not worse, just different. Appreciate the differences instead of the shortcomings and you’ll see people–and yourself–in a better light.
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True!! But this should not be a reason for junior executives to act smart and refuse to listen to comments made by their senior colleagues. 
If you are new, learning should be your main priority, not trying to prove you're better than others

8. Preaching.
Criticizing has a brother. His name is Preaching. They share the same father: Judging.
The higher you rise and the more you accomplish, the more likely you are to think you know everything–and to tell people everything you think you know.
When you speak with more finality than foundation, people may hear you but they don’t listen. Few things are sadder and leave you feeling less happy.

leave you feeling less happy?
somehow i find this to be inaccurate. those people who preach to others, letting others know of how experienced and knowledgeable they are, they must feel like the king of the world where he is the best in what he's doing.

preaching makes the preacher feels good. True! but what he does not know is that those people who he preached on are secretly hating him and are probably talking bad about him behind his back.
well, this is not a good thing to do, but in the real world, people do talk bad about others behind their backs.

do not mistake preaching as teaching. be sure that those people who you want to teach want to be taught, and like to be taught by you. sometimes although the content that to be taught is important and good for the students, but if it comes from someone whom they do not like they will not learn anything.

9. Dwelling.
The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others.
Then let it go.
Easier said than done? It depends on your focus. When something bad happens to you, see that as a chance to learn something you didn’t know. When another person makes a mistake, see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.
The past is just training; it doesn’t define you. Think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right.

True!! this relates to item #1 Blaming.
dwelling it the past mistakes will not change what happened. just focus on how you can make things better next time

10. Fearing.
We’re all afraid: of what might or might not happen, of what we can’t change, or what we won’t be able to do, or how other people might perceive us.
So it’s easier to hesitate, to wait for the right moment, to decide we need to think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few more alternatives.
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Meanwhile days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by.
And so do our dreams.
Don’t let your fears hold you back. Whatever you’ve been planning, whatever you’ve imagined, whatever you’ve dreamed of, get started on it today.
If you want to start a business, take the first step. If you want to change careers, take the first step. If you want to expand or enter a new market or offer new products or services, take the first step.
Put your fears aside and get started. Do something. Do anything.
Otherwise, today is gone. Once tomorrow comes, today is lost forever.
Today is the most precious asset you own–and is the one thing you should truly fear wasting.

So True. this also relates to item #3 Clinging
just to re-quote here "Today is the most precious asset you and is the one thing we should truly fear wasting"

Thursday, 27 September 2012

hapdet bulan 9 pulak..



Salam..

Sedar tak sedar da nak abes da bulan 9.. da lama aku tak tulis kat sini..
Busy, takda feeling nak tulis apa2..
Tapi tak bermaksud takda apa yg berlaku..
Sebenarnyer terlalu byk yg berlaku sampai aku takda kesempatan nak citer kat sini..
Tapi aku ada buat a few vlogs bila2 aku rasa cam nak citer something..
And I was thinking to post them somewhere, maybe here maybe youtube.. tapi aku tak post pon.. maybe not the time yet.. maybe never will..

Nevermind, I am here now writing, typing whatever word that comes to my brain, similar to like when im in front of the camera doing my vlog.. spontaneous and unplanned.. that s just who I am.. I rarely plan. Planning suits only some people, not me..

Ok lets not dwell in that, I will talk about a few things here.. some are happy, some sad, some exciting.. basically whatever that is important enough to me, I will talk here..

The other day (last week) I played cluedo with my work friends. Radin and ghaus came to my house and we went karoke, we played cluedo, played Kinect, played fifa.. ok it was fun.. da lama tak buat benda2 tu sumer..
They spent the night at my house, went back home on Sunday. And on Sunday, the UMNO community had open house for aidilfitri celebration. Walaupon raya da habis da pon, tapi takpe la dapat gak kitorang makan free..
Owh nak citer gak kat sini, I made waffles.. googled the recipe and used my old waffle iron and made them… the first ones macam tak jadi pasal melekat kat dalam iron tu.. damn susah gila nak bersihkan..i almost gave up, then I noticed iron to setting dier maximum, tu pasal la my waffles hangus kat luar dier dalam still x keras, bila angkat iron tu dier melekat..
I learned that and later on my waffles were great.. ok x great.. but good enough la for eyes to see and for mouth to eat..
BTW, aku menang main cluedo..

Ok harini aku sangat malas nak keje.. keje pon macam x banyak.. thank God for that..
Semalam baru habis tender submission. So today macam nak relax sikit, walaupon semalam phang my boss told me we need to discuss more on N2N, maybe later this evening.. I hope I don’t have to go back late tonight.. esok aku cuti..
These past weeks mmg byk gila tender.. mula dgn N2N, then aku ada celcom tender, then semalam baru habis tender Affin.. mmg busy.. penat…. I need a vacation!!!

Which reminds me raul sekang kat perhentian island.. called him last night nak citer2 nak borak2 dier dalam bas pergi perhentian.. seronok nyer..

Tapi aku da habis cuti da ni.. kalau nak cuti gak gaji kena tolak, which is something I cannot afford right now..

Ok takmo fikir pasal keje takmo fikir pasal duit.. nak citer pasal benda2 yg da jadi these past few months.. dekat 2 bulan kot tak update blog..
Aliff dad passed away, and I went to penang with him for the funeral and kenduri arwah.. ok this part is sad, but I will tell anyway..
Malam bapak nyer meninggal, ada satu rumah kat apartment aku ni terbakar.. umah aku tingkat 8, umah tingkat 9 ada terbakar.. dengar citer ada orang still dalam rumah bila terbakar tu.. aku pon taktau apa nasib orang dalam rumah tu.. pasal bila jadi terbakar tu, penduduk2 kat situ termasok aku pegi la ke sana tgk and cuba tolong apa yg boleh, then ada bomba datang sana gak…
Then kitorang balik umah Nampak miss calls kat phone alip, family nyer call kata papa nyer da meninggal.. adoiyai… besar betul dugaan pada hari itu..
Sebelum ni aku beranggapan aku tak sekuat ini, aku tak kuat, aku tak mampu bila diuji benda2 besar..
Sekarang ni bila aku da melalui beberapa ujian yg sangat besar.. I know I am strong enough…
And that quran cert about God will not give you with ujian yg unbearable to you, that is so true..
Allah Ar rahman ar Rahim.. dier saying kita.. sure ujian nyer kita mampu tempuhi..
Sabra separuh dari iman..

Ok takmo lak jadi ustat kat sini.. nak cite rpasal benda lain pulak la..

Ok aku tak pegi mesiniaga, aku stay je kat powerware, dier ada la naikkan gaji aku.. tapi takda la tinggi macam kat mesiniaga.. tapi aku stay je la
Pasal aku taknak susah2 keje tempat jauh, nak kena belajar balik, biasakan diri dll.. so stay je la.. this company pon takda la teruk pon walaupon local company kechik je..
Tapi nnt sure ada peluang lain yg datang.. insyaallah

Ok apa lagi nak citer sini eh..
Ok a few weeks ago I was really considering doing an internet business.. macam nak jual something ke apa ke.. tapi now macam da malas.. bila aku but research, baca itu ini, aku sedar yg keje kat internet, business internet perlukan byk keje jugak..
Bukannyer klik sana klik sini da dapat duit.. sapa nak kasi kan..
So disebabkan aku takda kesempatan untuk buat sumer tu, aku cam relak dulu la.. macam takda semangat da nak cuba.. maybe next time..
Lagipon sekarang ni aku nyer kedudukan financial pon tak berapa nak kukuh lagi.. so maybe next year?

Haritu aku pegi la nak audition 1 juta money drop tu.. ramai nyer orang.. tapi yg sedih nyer aku tak dapat masok pon dalam tu pasal ramai sangat orang… sedih nyer… tapi takper la.. nak sedih pon tak guna.. takda rezeki kat sana la tu maknanyer..

Kat office aritu derang buat celebration besday aku.. ada ice cream cake!!!
Ok sangat suke dapat makan ice cream cake..

And da seminggu ke 2 minggu aku tak pegi gym da pasal terlalu busy.. salu balik keje kol 9 la kol 10 la… mencik!! And at the same time aku da tak jaga makan… makan macam2.. dan sumer cam menggemokkan… kalau aku timbang sekang ni sure cam da naik berat.. tapi kat seluar tak rasa ketat lagi.. so maybe tak naik byk sgt kot.. nvm, aku akan kembali with gym routine yg macam dulu.. huhu.. nak badan hot macam fitness model… boleh??
Okla, tetiba aku macam da takda idea nak tulis apa2.. jadi la kot buat masa ni, buat kali ni..
Takda apa yg menarik nak bagitau da.. till next time la.. later~~

Monday, 20 August 2012

ANOTHER RAYA POST

salam..

i think it was yesterday i tweeted that i had loads to talk about this year raya but had no time to do so..
now im home doing nothing.. i definitely have all the time today and tomorrow to do this entry, talking about what ever i want about the raya or other random things...

ok bosan...

i shouldve known raya kat KL itu bosan.. but i chose to believe differently hoping that random great things would happen on their own unplanned... but looks like they didnt happen, probably not going to.. but nvm, it was too much to ask for without effort..

ok digressed and meroyan tak ketentuan hala sangat repekan aku.. i will write whatever that i can remember about all the things i had wanted to talk about.. every single random thoughts that was on my mind on the eve of raya, 1st day and 2nd day of raya..

ok 1st, the bernas ad..

i know the ad is so sad, and after watching it i cried i admit to that..
also about this comment that afiq kechik made about the ad.
he tweeted that the ad was brilliant but us malays tend to be sad on hari raya that is supposed to be a joyous, audacious occasion. malays should celebrate not mourn..
but the weird thing in malaysia is that almost all tv programs, raya adverts would have sadness theme..
and that is true..
my comment?
i used to think like afiq kechik.. previously, i would totally agree with him.. that we should celebrate.. but now i think differently, not totally different just slightly..
yes we should celebrate, but the sadness is also apart of raya.
i do become sad when i think of the people who arent here anymore to celebrate. and we hear in the news about people who got killed in accidents and die just a few days before raya.
the sadness from losing your loved ones will feel like double, triple, however many folds when its raya time..
i guess thats why people get sad.
i went to visit the kubur in my kampung yesterday where my atuk, paksu and pak uda were burried. i got sad.
altho we lost them when i was still a kid, but from the look on my mothers face, i could imagine how much she misses them. i tried to put myself in her shoes and i cried too. i am yet to experience the lost of my close family members so i could only imagine and that was enough to make me eyes all red and watery..
so what im trying to say is.. i do understand why people get sad during raya.. its not a choice but it is apart of raya itself.. however being sad alone isnt enough.. sedekah alfatihah to them in their remembrance..

ok next thing i want to ramble on here..

petronas ad..

haih disappointment.
that ad would probably mean something to like 0.05% of Malaysians who work for petronas and had been sent to work in afghan, uzbekistan or wherever in the world.
i personally do not like it coz its so non-malaysian. it doesnt serve the major public's interest.
malay word for it is SYOK SENDIRI.. berapa ketul sangat la orang yg boleh relate to that kind of situation..
sedih!!! not in a good way

ok next i want to talk about raya and food.
maybe it has been a tradition, people preparing food during raya to serve the guests when they come visit. ok here i will say my opinion.

i think some people, most people are too excessive, luxurious and wasteful.. ok im not really sure what word to use.. too much is membazir..
on average 1 house would prepare rendang daging, rendang ayam, nasi impit/ketupat, kuah kacang, lemang and kuih muih. it is just like when breaking fast.. there are just too many food that will end up being dumped in thrash..

i do love all of them, but arent they just too much? it is the tradition, i know but cant we change it? or should we?
if its something to vote, id vote for yes, i think this tradition should change.
but then again its only like once a year, so maybe its okay.. ok now im confused..

but the fact remains, there are just too many food.. try to reduce the amount, if we can..
when im married, i will tell my wife not to be too excessive.. prepare just enough..

haha i think this is easier said than done, but we'll see..
ok teringat this question.."ekau bilo laie ni??"
when is my turn? haih la old people, asking me as if  i have the answer to that..
too many things to consider/to do/to get done before i can think of marriage..

ok off topic sikit, to ramble a bit on a non raya topic..

i want to get married, i do.. if i can afford it that is..
duit tak ada..
ok now i sound like the guy singing the song nak kawen duit tak ada.. sedih!!

nak bayar loan ASB, nak simpan duit beli rumah (downpayment, lawyers fee etc etc), nak kasi mak bapak (beli barang2 rumah and also save in tabung haji), nak bayar hutang MARA lagi..

belanja2 benda lain, duit minyak, installment kereta, service.. nanti roadtax la insurance lagi, nak kena tukar tayar, tukar battery, kena buat alignment la, balancing la.. blablabla..

duit internet, telephone, astro, sewa rumah bil air bil api..
makan minum lagi..

ok kalau nak jadi selfish, to include other miscellaneous items for myself,
nak bayar gym, nak beli protein, nak bayar kerusi urut, nak bayar kad kredit nak beli baju, seluar, kasut, perfume
nak pegi melancong, nak itu nak ini 

damn!!! pening kepala hokay..

caner nak simpan duit nak kawen??

haihs.. xpe la... buat je la mana yg mampu..
meroyan kat sini pon bukan ada pekdah..

baca doa dhuha la kasi murah rezeki



nak cakap pasal benda lain la..

yesterday i followed my family go back kampung in Kuala Pilah,
i was listening to their conversation and i learned something.

there are 2 makcik at the kampung who are cousins to each other. they are not talking to each other anymorel.. because of what??

pasal berebut tanah!!! sedih jugak la bila fikir2 balik..

tanah tu asal nyer kepunyaan mak kepada makcik A, then her mother died, the tanah turun ke mak makcik B which is the younger sister  of mak makcik A.

then mak makcik B died and the war to decide the tanah belongs to whom began.. why not just devide the tanah equally?

this is how the feud started. makcik B which from what people say is a greedy bitch. she already has the tanah which was left by her mother, so supposedly the tanah left by mak makcik A, which later on was passed to mak makcik B should go back to makcik A, coz initially it was from her mother..

but this greedy makcik B also wants to claim this tanah because she said her late mother had given the tanah to her, altho the tanah was not hers to give.. on paper yes it was hers but bitch please, u and makcik A used to be sisters kot.. and u already have the tanah left by your mother, perlu ke nak berebutkan tanah yg mak makcik A left for makcik A when you already have your share...

susah kan bila bertanah2 ni orang jadi tamak sampak lupa sedara mara..
mungkin kalau tanah tu tak tinggi nilai sangat tak la sampai cani kot.. ni tanah tu kebun getah kan... so mmg berebut la..

i side with makcik A coz it was her mothers to begin with.. mak makcik B shouldve returned the tanah to makcik A when she died but decided to give to her daughter pulak.. aish!!

hahahaha now i feel like i'm one of those makcik2 bergossip.. but the different is i am gossiping with myself in this small blog of mine..
may it be of some sort of lesson to us not to be greedy..

makcik A told my mum. when she went to tarawih, after done with solat, she saw makcik B at the saf behind her and wanted to salam, makcik B left just like that... owh what a bitch.. bulan puasa kot...

and makcik B is younger, so she should apologize.. dont be so greedy bitch!!!

ok enough with greedy makcik B, i want to talk about something else..

i know up there i did say something about excessive food and i said we should not be wasteful..

but the truth is, i have a fair share of wasting too..
ok maybe its not wasting yet since its still edible and not spoiled yet.. i will consider it as wasteful if its too much and nobody eats it and then buang macam tu jer pasal da rosak..

ok what i want to say is, i made cornflake madu and kek batik.. hahaha malas nak letak gambar sini but my cookies and cake is not bad la.. considering how i so seldom make those kan..
kek batik first time and i didnt even follow the recipe... buat sesuka hati jer.. just how i used to cook when i was overseas..

haaaa now i remember about this other thing i wanted to talk about...OMG this post is so long alredy.. haha

the 1st day of raya, we went to my fathers siblings houses.. mak ngah, paklong taha, mak lang rokan, then to makchik yot in palong 4, and at night after maghrib went to paktam's at palong 11..

haha i had wanted to take photos at all places but... hmmm.... but i didnt... why didnt i??
maybe i didnt want to seem like poyo sangat? or trying too hard?? or sibuk2 lak semangat nak amek gambar??
haih!! i think too much of what people might say i end up not doing what i want to do... that is sooo not me.. the old me/or should i say the younger me wouldve done it nonchalantly without caring what other people say... tapi nowadays taktau la asal i would opt not to stand out, care too much??
hmmm... need to change this...
haih, maybe next year..

ok digressed a bit. heres the actual thing i want to talk.

the night of the 1st day of raya we had spent at achik yot's house at palong 4.
there i met with abang kincam.. i think his real name is hisham but people have been calling him kincam since i could remember.. he's actually maklangs son but he'd been living with achik yot since he was small..
when i was a preschooler, 5 or 6 years old like that, he used to live with us in wangsa maju.
i think he stayed for a few months before moving out renting somewhere else..
after he left, i barely know of his existence. Years went by and i didnt know if he was still alive or not nor whatever happened to him..

so i learned a few things about him that night.. he got married, then divorced.. go kids i think but i dont know how many.

i also learned that he had been using drugs.. haish... masalah typical lelaki melayu di kampung2..
and he is still using, so they say.. coz he was skinny..
i think they are right, him that i remember used to be muscular (when i was a kid he was like 20+ i think)
ok admit, time kechik aku nak badan macam dier.. hahaha..

but that night he was alone at the corner of the room and noone seemed to care about him.. haish that is so sad..
my pakcik Nor (achik yots husband) said he caught him using drugs in the house when they were gone. achiks son named apak (now an arwah innalillah..) had brain cancer and had to undergo brain surgery so they all spent most of the time at hospital. when pakcik nor came home, people nearby were telling them of how abg kincam had made their house a drugs center.. he'd have his frens come over and do drug there when achik's family was not around..
so when he was caught, pak nor (achik yot's husband) got really mad and even tried to hit him with a parang.. chased him out of the house.. but for raya, he let kincam come back la.. only for raya.. ok la kot..

when i saw him like that, i just felt.. haih sedihnyer hidup macam ni..
anak-anak pon takda ngn kita.. bini lari..
family pon taknak terima..
why oh why must he use drugs..

he calls achik yot mak altho his real mum is maklang.. but ive never seen him and maklang in the same room together.. so i asked my kak why hes calling achik yot mak and not maklang..

so my sister story me la, when he was born maklang family had series of misfortunes, so they believed that kincam was the bringer of bad luck, bawa sial la orang melayu cakap..
haih sedih sungguh..

so maklang had given him to be raised by nenek (my dads mum)... when he was 10 or 11 nenek died and achik took him in, so thats why he calls achik mak, i think..

haih la orang melayu... anak bawa sial?? i could only shake my head when i heard this..

hes not the only one in his family whose life got destroyed by drugs.
his eldest brother named amran, whom we all call wak tembe was/is also using drugs... he got divorced also, and now living a sad life alone, maybe with occasional visits from his sons and daughters..

sedih la bila tahu kisah2 orang macam ni.. it teaches us not to take drugs or even try it.. oh tuhan pelihara la aku dan keluarga ku dari benda haram tu..

okla aku rasa for this time.. im tired actually.. rasa cam nak take a nap sebentar..

kalau ada orang yg baca this post, semoga dapat amek what iktibar there may be.. ada otak fikir la mana baik buruk kan..

saya bukan orang sempurna, takda orang yg sempurna tapi kita sama2 la cuba jadi lebih baik dari sebelum nyer..

kalau ada apa2 yg aku rasa nak bebel lagi sini, aku post lagi.. haha..
tapi now aku da letih la, mata da bepinar2.. haha..
till next time..
later~~



Thursday, 16 August 2012

hari malas di office


Omg harini saya sangat tidak ada mood nak kerja
Saya rasa macam nak tidur jer sekarang.
Alangkah bagusnya kalau la sekarang ni saya boleh balik ke rumah dan tidur dan tidur dan tidur.

Harini hari last kerja, hari esok hari last puasa. Lepas tu aku akan cuti 3 hari, im so looking forward to not having to think about anything but food and how to lose weight after eating so much food during raya

Saya sangat malas nak kerja
Saya rasa agak tension pasal orang tua tu cakap berbelit2, pasal dier tak paham, and dier cakap aku tak paham, when I explained to him he didn’t want to believe me, in fact he asked the supplier who said of the same thing but he still adamant wanting to see the quotation from supplier,
Then he said the suppliers I got quotation from previously didn’t quote competitively, I was like, “are you serious bitch??”
But there's no point arguing with him, its his company so just keep quiet and be dumb, let him do all the talking, when he’s pleased he’ll leave me alone. I think. I hope.

 it seems like there is going to a meeting in regards to csc renewals project which I seem not to care anymore nowadays. I don’t know if I will attend but I think yeah I will. The other old guy probably want me to join also so that he'd have someone to point fingers to, should there be any finger pointing to do

ahh bosan nya..
sometimes i think about how my lifes gonna be like if i quit my job. and its horrid. so nak taknak kena la sabar dan buat je keje.

quitting doesnt solve problems.

persevere and tawakal insyallah..

ok aku nak check email yg melambak ni

later~~~

Tuesday, 7 August 2012

ratu meratukan

haha..

i will make it short this one..
but who knows kan.. kadang2 tu bila aku cam da syok menaip panjang jugak jadinyer post ni nnt..

budak2 ni zariq odie samem sapek cadon pasha sola ki n aku sumer cam plan nak pi bukak posa kat kg baru steak house, tapi samem yg belanja la pasal die businesman berjaya..

so kat whatsapp da mula la mengajak2 budak2 ni..

aku ngaku aku yg mulakan bila aku tanya odie, "ratu texas tu x join ke?"
*ratu texas merujuk kepada sola pasal die keje kat texas instrument..

pastu budak2 ni sumer nak meratukan diri masing2.. ratu honda la, ratu airasia la ratu toyota, ratu ranhill.. odie ialah ratu master pasal dier sorang je ada master..

haha i know not many people will find this funny but i do.. i think its hilarious..
and the fact that cadon knew MOJ (short for Mak On Jer) earlier than i did is really shocking as well.. haha one word... EXPOSURE..

for sure die lagi terdedah kepada golongan2 sebegitu walaupon die bukan sebegitu.. *paham2 sendiri la kan
and when he used MOJ dgn kitorang, haha mmg lawak.. 

anyhow, theres another thing yg made me LOL hard..


hahaha theres nothing really funny about the photo, but the comments and the tags are hillarious...
yg paling TBB is kak long si puteri siam

sila baca sendiri..
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1351610507114&set=a.1351537265283.202481.1136914636&type=1&theater&notif_t=photo_comment


this is another memory and i find it very funny, probably will be funny till we all grow old..
this photo is from 2008 if im not mistaken.. that is 4 years ago..

the chances are, even after 10 years, its still gonna be funny..
if not to anybody else, it is and will be to me..

owh another thing,
i went for an aptitude test at mesiniaga today, i had to take EL..

actually i didnt have to, but i knew if i hadnt, then Wai Kok Le wouldve wanted me to follow him to Klang for that meeting and i wouldnve been able to go for the test..
so i took EL for the whole day..
it also allowed me to wake up at 11 this morning... a bliss~~

the test was quite difficult.. and there were 120 questions, 1 point for each asnwered correctly, and -0.25 point deduction for every wrong answer.. hahaha thats new to me...

so end up mmg byk la soalan yg aku tak jawab tadi...

i just hope for the best, but i am kind of reluctant to work there since its further from my house and working at a new place means having to make new friends, learn new things and get used to new environment yadayada...

well, it cant be all bad i think.. mana tau aku berjumpa jodoh di sini..

doakan yg terbaik..

okla, i want to resume watching voleyball wanita gagah ni..
brazil vs russia..

im rooting for russia of coz, but brazil seems more dominant... da sumer macam jantan aku tgk..
russia jugak chantek2 belaka..

haa cakap chantek, aku nak post gambar ni jugak...






hahahaha dikatakan kami nampak muda dan suchi...

chanteque sangat yuols!!!

kthxbye

Wednesday, 1 August 2012

twas my birthday a few days ago.
browsed facebook to see those birthday wishes.
as fb now has timeline, i had the urge to see back what was on 2009 and saw 2 videos..
heres one of em..

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=141904351637&notif_t=video_comment_tagged

it made me teary eyed... things arent gonna be the same anymore..
i miss it all so much..
knowing that its something that i prolly am never gonna experience again made me even more sad..

but i know sad i shouldnt be but of course utmost gratitude to God that I got to experience that.. the sweetness we shared being friends, more than just friends, almost a family..

but i keep my fingers crossed that one fine day we'll get to gather together and just have fun like we did..
until then all the best people in whatever you do..